Whenever I speak or teach at an event, I’m always asked the same question, “Can you help me organize my spouse?” I wish I could wave a wand and create magic for those who ask. But after living with a not-so-organized man for 25 years, I’ve learned you can’t change people, no matter how hard you try!
Although I’ve written tips on how to live with an not-so organized spouse before, I wondered how many of those same disorganized spouses would share what it’s like to live with an organized person. I’m sure it’s not a walk in the park for them either!
So I decided to ask my wonderful husband, Clint, a few questions about what it’s like living with me so you can get a different point of view.
First though, you have to know that Clint and I are your classic “Odd Couple”: he is outgoing, funny, adventurous, spontaneous, and mild-mannered; I am an introvert, serious, cautious, predictable, and impatient. We don’t have the perfect marriage, but in our 25 years together we’ve learned to balance each other’s personalities, strengths and weakness to make it work for us and our family.
You also have to know that Clint is not a man of many words – I do most of the talking for the both of us! – so trying to get detailed answers out of him was like pulling teeth! But he was kind enough to go along….
Living with an organized person – my husband’s POV
What’s your favorite organizing project that I’ve done around the house and why?
Clint: Helping me organize the garage. Although it’s my “designated” space that you promise not to bug me about keeping organized, I do like that it is, somewhat.
What is your least favorite organizing project that I’ve done?
Clint: The pantry because I can never find stuff. (*Not sure why because everything is labeled in there!)
Would you say you’re organized?
Clint: No, not really.
Do you think you can be organized?
Clint: Yeah, I could be organized. But I don’t have to because you are!
What the worst organizing pet peeve you have about me?
Clint: You put things ways that I can never find again, you like to “hide” things. (*I don’t really hide them, I just don’t always keep them in plain sight!)
What’s the most disorganized room in our house?
Clint: The garage because my stuff is everywhere and I’m responsible for it.
How has my organized personality impacted our marriage?
Clint: It’s helped us get through a lot of challenges – kids, lots of moving. It’s balanced our our personalities and helped us create fun memories when traveling.
Has my organized personality helped you be better organized?
Clint: No, not really.
Me: That is not true…. I saw you using my label maker one day, I caught you purging your clothes before we went shopping and I’ve also noticed that you’ve become more of a list maker in the last few years too!
Clint: This is true.
Have you ever seen me disorganized?
Clint: Well, the kitchen isn’t your favorite room so it can get pretty messed up. But that’s partly because I’ve made the mess!
What do you think I do as an organizer?
Clint: You help people organize spaces, and you help people get ready for moving, events, and stuff. You probably make people get rid of things too because you never keep anything at our house. (*He’s right about that!)
How would you describe what living with an organized person is like?
Clint: It’s very organized.
Clint: I’m being serious – that’s my answer. (*I tried to get a more rounded answer, but he wouldn’t budge and provide me with more!)
Okay, last question….what does it mean to containerize?
Clint: Is this a trick question?
Me: No. Okay, do you think I go crazy with containers?
Clint: I don’t think you go overboard with them, but I don’t think we need a container for everything like you do.
So there you have it – some insight into what it’s like living with an organized person. I know that the organizing issue is a balancing act for some couples and it isn’t always easy, but it can be done! Clint and I are proof positive of that.
Communication, love and the support of one another can go a long way in making a house divided (in organizing terms), a house united!
What would your better half say about you if you asked him/her about your organization or disorganization?
Leave me a comment and let me know. I’d love to hear from you!